i am sorry if my previous answer offended you in any way. and i am sorry that i did not explain further on what i meant on happiness and dependency. 

but why are you upset? does not that strengthen my answer that a person’s dependency towards god for happiness will cause suffering? it is as if you are being threatened? it is as if you need god to be your source of happiness. because that is what you have believed in. because it is what you have held on to. if someone, such as me, tells you something that is contrary on what you believe in you become upset or angered. 

you are not just holding on to the idea that god is the source of happiness, but you become that idea. that is why if a person attacks your idea, you feel threatened, you become insecure.

and when there is insecurity, there is displeasure. 

yes, happiness depends on ourselves, or in your words “it sticks to ourselves”. what i mean by independent happiness is that happiness does not become dependent towards anything outside ourselves, specifically our mind. happiness is all in our minds.

if you choose to be happy, then you become happy. if you choose to hold on to anger, to hold on to sadness, to hold on to the past you become miserable. it is not that we can’t let go of these things, but it’s because we don’t want to. 

if happiness has its source in god we become dependent on god. we will constantly ask god for happiness without ourselves doing anything to be happy. we will just pray and hope that god will someday relieve us of our misery and bring us happiness.

and if after you ask god to help you and god does not help you, god does not relieve you of your suffering you then become angry towards god. and then you question god, “why did god let me suffer!”. you then become an atheist and then you hate god. and then you hate people that loves god. and then you hate religion and then you hate every single thing that has the word religion or god in it.

this is but an example of the horrible cycle of one our dependency.

if your really want to exchange ideas, just tell me your name and we can meet up anonymous. don’t worry i won’t bite but i really love making new friends to exchange thoughts with.

metta.